Does anyone really like receiving feedback? I’m not sure. But if you can receive it and use it appropriately, it can be the best way to improve your work in progress and enhance your ability as a writer.
Many writers are without training and work on their craft in their free time. They may do it out of passion or because they have something to say that needs to be shared with the world. In this context, feedback can be the best means of learning to be a better writer.
I came to fiction after fifteen years as a professional medical writer. Giving and receiving feedback is something I’m quite used to. I have been involved in the training of many writers, and one thing they all have in common when starting out is the experience of receiving feedback is an odd sensation. Some new writers take it in their stride. They quickly get used to it, and they recognize that it’s key to quality assurance and their professional development. Some – however – hate it, and they struggle to get used to it. Thankfully, this is a small proportion, and they usually do get better at it with time. But it isn’t easy for them. I always tell them the following: feedback is part and parcel of being a writer. There’s no avoiding it.
As a medical writer where a professional standard of content is expected, feedback is an absolute necessity. Clients expect it to be part of the process, and editorial practices are established to ensure that review and feedback are part of the routine.
If you’re writing for yourself and hoping to share your output via publication, then you should have the same mindset. You should see feedback as a necessity. You should be demanding feedback from your beta readers and reviewers. Receiving feedback can be a superpower. Why? Because it’s a window into how other people see your work. They’ll see it differently to you. This is your baby, and you may love it regardless of how ugly it is, but they’ll help you see where the weaknesses are in the story and in your writing; crucially, allowing you to work on both. It’s the most effective way of becoming a better writer. If you’re offered feedback, don’t shy away. Embrace it with all your heart and thank the donor for their kindness.
Should you accept all feedback? No, certainly not, and do keep in mind that a pinch of salt may be necessary sometimes. Whether you’re a professional writer receiving feedback from a senior colleague or a self-published author reading anonymous online reviews, do remember that the context of feedback matters. It is generally better to err on the side of caution if you want to improve and learn to be better. There’s always something to learn from feedback – even if the comments appear harsh and unnecessary. Take it all in – detoxify where you can – and utilize where possible.
Make it work, and receiving feedback will be the superpower that enables your writing to fly like superman.
Excellent article. I’m still getting used to receiving feedback. The good, bad and ugly. I do get nervous every time someone reviews my work. I learned not to take their feedback too personally but it’s a process. I’m not separate and apart from my work.
Thanks Annette. I understand completely. It takes nerves of steel sometimes but the potential benefits definitely outweigh the negatives. I wish you all the best with the writing!